DOMESTICATED BRAZILIAN!!!!

As I speak to some colleagues, one of them tells me that she does not think that I can cook, clean and I don't slightly possess any characteristics of a woman that could look after a man, let alone a family! THE SHOCK!!!

Why is it that the choice of having a brazilian, malaysian, peruvian and indian weaves with nails that are well manicured and lashes, for some, give women that don't have those things the idea that all women with hair extensions and fake nails are not domesticated? I mean, if one thinks about it, many of us in our late 20s experienced life in the township, if not, we visited and still do visit families in the hood and we know how to do things that are expected of girls...

It is very insulting that people think that my weave and nails make up who I am... I may not be Nigela Lawson in the kitchen, but dammit maan... I know how to put a meal together... I may not possess a cleaning certificate but i know how to use a broom... Is it because I don't live in the hood and experience the everyday struggles that has me judged by women who are so called grounded and traditional...  I AM TRADITIONAL too... In fact, I may be more traditional and domesticated than you may ever be... Unless tradional means; I must not own a car, have a weave and live in the burbs.... then hey, shoot me.. I'm not traditional... If being grounded means I am not a woman of substance that is educated and knows how to build a home, treat a man and constantly looking for opportunities to make money... I am guilty of not being grounded!
Why is it that I need to look "ungroomed" and unpretty to display any sort of worthiness of being a traditional or domesticated woman? why must I be stagnant and not hope for more than I have? If being a domesticated traditional and grounded woman means I must be primitive in my thoughts and not want to grow myself in the direction which the world is moving... then I need to revisit the definition of being domesticated... I will not apologise for the things I have!!! I am not my weave... I AM A PHENOMENAL WOMAN!!!!

And for now, one thing is certain... this brazilian right here.... its domesticated baby - ya koropa ya tlhatswa ya tsokotsa!!!