It became evident to me in my mid 20's that, in my mother telling me I need to be an independent, strong and God fearing woman with a good financial standing; my mother forgot the 'how to' lecture.
Today I stand here in my late 20's and realize that there is no way another woman was going to be able to explain or put in words all the lessons or experiences to look out for in this journey of life. That lecture of life is merely a practical lesson.
A mother cannot tell her daughter how to prevent her heart from being shattered to pieces by a man, she can only highlight the possibilities. She cannot tell her daughter how to spend her money, she can only advise. A mother can never in a million years, make her daughter feel what God's love feels like, she can only describe.
A mother could not teach her daughter how to get up and walk away from a relationship, a friendship, a job or any experience in her life because the strength of a woman is drawn from her propensity to bounce back from all these hard experiences; and unfortunately, a mother's strength is not transferable to her daughter.
The cliche, 'nobody said life would be easy', is a way of describing that the phenomenal woman we all aspire to be, needs to go through financial difficulties to appreciate wealth. Experience heartache to appreciate genuine love. Be hurt, to be able to carry the right friends into the phenomenal womanhood. Most importantly, experience turmoil to find, acknowledge, understand and build the relationship God wants us to have with Him.
If our mothers did all these things for us, we would never appreciate the value of being alive. It is our experiences that shape our thoughts, actions and the words we utter. We are made up of all these beautifully hidden elements that are unique and can only be discovered by ourselves: and its our actions and reactions to life experiences that steer us to these amazing discoveries.
It is this uniqueness that makes up our phenomena. We are phenomenal, we just need to realize it, accept it, own it, love it!
Our experiences may be similar but only you can reach your financial potential, reach the stage of being one with God and determine what strength and independence mean to you!
We need to be easy on ourselves! We have done relatively well in some aspects of our lives, don't let the little that is tough discourage you from smiling! Wise men say, It is not tough times that last, it is tough people...
If it gets too tough, take a deep breath... Count to 10.... Smile.... Walk away...
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