In today's world there is a notion among women that there are not enough decent men that are single and willing to commit. As I take to the streets, I met up with a young confident and professional woman with a decent job, decent social life and prides herself on being a concubine.
*Karabo, 26, says "Like a wife that knows her role in her husband’s life and their home, the faithful concubine knows hers. I know to wait for his call on a Monday morning from our last conversation on Friday evening; greet him with a smile so bright it shines through the phone" she says, with a chuckle and bright smile.
She says she knows that the time they spend together is limited to what is expected of him at home as a husband. So, she makes "every second count, every minute special and every hour more exciting than the last. " Again, much like the wife, she chooses to be faithful… not because of vows of course; "and certainly not in hope that she will make him leave his wife one day!" as she rolls her eyes. "It's only because of the happiness he brings… " Karabo explains. The limited time she spends with him on the phone, impromptu getaways and meeting at their “usual” spot, is immeasurably, insanely fulfilling in every way imaginable! she elaborates.
She continues to express that "every woman that feels so deeply about man, surely won’t look at other men walking their way! It’s just in our nature to dwell in this beautiful space as women… " After a pause to have a sip of water, she mentions as a 'by the way', "please understand that the faithful concubine is also a submissive woman to this married man that melts her heart, as we have all been taught to be as women."
This one is for the judgemental reader thinking “settling for less” or “second best”…
Karabo expresses that there also comes a time in a woman’s life when all she wants is attention from a man, a man that has no reason to lie about anything because she is too tired of verifying information; a man she is guaranteed won’t give her sleepless nights on a wet pillow.... she is all cried out; a man she doesn’t have to speak to when she doesn’t want to; a man who ensures to protect her heart from getting caught up in a mad mess because her heart has been broken one too many times by a man... "A SINGLE MAN!!!!!" She shouts as she jumps out her chair.
Yes the life may appear unrealistic; going away, partying, creating ambience for every time the man takes the concubine out… "Lest we forget where we come from ladies" she says confidently! "anything solid you have today with your man was built on all those things, you were just gunning for gold and the concubine isn’t though…Don’t get it twisted…"
Now, it takes a strong woman to fight back anything that makes her feel good… but because the faithful concubine is exactly that, a STRONG phenomenal woman, she will remain faithful to the relationship her and this man agreed upon from the start… she will never stray, she will always knock sense and reality into this man and remind him of their connection and not their love…" its deeper than that!" says Karabo. It’s compatibility coupled with understanding of each one’s role and responsibility towards ensuring no one gets hurt, because the faithful concubine knows hurt… and she makes it her priority in this relationship to protect the wife from the hurt she once knew, believe it or not!
"But its not because she thinks you are suuuuuuch a cool wife and you feed her man and, and, and… Naaaaah!" Karabo laughs. She has to protect your heart because if your heart breaks… it breaks hers…. And again not because she likes you… its because then she has to let go of the man that makes her laugh after a hard day at work, a man she can get silly with at any time of the day, a man she carefully chose to protect her heart!
Oh yes, she is faithful to your heart too for her own selfish reasons… then again she is human…. And human beings are selfish!
Always remember that she will forever be faithful to both of you! Judge her, respect her, love her, hate her.... SHE TOO IS PHENOMENAL!!!!
*Not real name
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